So not only is my youngest brother (Clone) going to be a dad for the second time...
My middle brother (Scot) is also going to be a dad.
With his girlfriend (who I do think is a good match for him), but they have only been dating since May.
On the plus side, apparently my two brothers talked prior to Scot telling me last night. How do I know? Scot talked to Mr. Lina in the afternoon and told him first, wanting advice on how to approach me. Scot said that "apparently Skype isn't a good way". No kidding.
I love my brothers and I know how much they want to treat me with kid gloves. I guess the thing is they don't know what to do, they (fortunately) cannot empathise nor read my mind. And the truth is, there isn't a good way. It's going to suck for me regardless of how they say it. Giving me space lets me have the illusion with them that it doesn't suck so much.
Mr. Lina's advice was that it's like a band aid, just tell me. I'll deal with it. Don't wait to do it in person, just get it over with and I will be okay.
So Scot phoned. I was so shocked (I mean seriously, it doesn't feel like they have been dating long enough for her to BE pregnant) the first words out of my mouth were "wow, that was fast". Perhaps not the most tactful thing I've ever said, but it wasn't about me and my losses so it's kind of a step in the right direction.
We are going camping this weekend. Scott, his girlfriend, my cousin and his wife, another couple that don't have kids, and another couple who have two girls I adore. I am so thankful he told me last night. I would not have been able to cope with being told with that kind of an audience and no where to run. Or was left to do the math myself when she's suddenly not accepting a beer, etc. All I asked is that they don't spend the whole weekend gushing about it. She doesn't have to hide it, but conversation has to be about something other than babies for me to stay sane. I can be happy for them, I think Scot is going to be a great dad. One thing that had me sad about his first marriage was that it looked like they weren't going to have kids and I really thought he should be a dad. And he's 35, I get that there isn't the time for an engagement and big wedding and crap before having kids (although I do get the impression this was a bit of a happy surprise for them).
I will say, I am doing better today than I expected. I'm not sad or teary, I've been productive. I guess I'm just mostly still surprised over it all. We'll see how it goes. I'm already scared of when they both have their babies within weeks of each other.