I have mentioned a few times that I don't dye my hair. I used to, I suck at the maintenance required for it to look good, and I don't really mind my white hairs. When my hair is down, I feel like Rogue with her white streak of hair (and side note, the link for Rogue is an awesome blog post).
At my client site, there is an older fellow who works security. He's generally crotchety and grumpy, but he usually calls me beautiful and I giggle and smile and my day starts off right.
Today, I had lunch with a friend. I'm wearing a skirt that makes me feel corporate-powerful and pretty. I was feeling pretty good.
As I walked in, my security friend asked if I was sick. No, not sick.
Why don't you dye your hair?
You know his daughter is also young and has white hair and she dyes her hair. White hair is for old guys like himself. I'm too young to have white hair.
I laughed, I said I liked my white hair, it's too much hassle to dye it, I've been there, done that, got the t-shirt. Not interested at the moment.
When I got to my desk and reviewed the conversation, it hurt. I was angry. I'm still angry 4 hours later.
I don't really know why. He can have his opinion on my hair. It's my hair and I'll do what I want with it. I might consider if Mr. Lina would like something (his vote would be long and red, but to paraphrase his attempt to cheer me up, he wants to ah... play with my lady parts regardless of what colour my hair is) but in the end, it is my head and my hair. I said I like my white hairs. If that's true, then the laughing it off is where it should end.
I get comments on my hair from time to time. Sometimes from people who say they like the whites and how they mostly frame my face. Lately it's been on the length, particularly if I haven't seen them in 6+ months and they notice the difference. Sometimes it's on how healthy it looks for being so long.
Other times it's about the existence of hair dyes. As if I didn't know there were entire aisles in drug, grocery and mass stores. Perhaps they think I don't see it when I'm buying shampoo. Or never noticed when I had a hair care manufacturer as a client for two years. Or that I assume that all those people with orange, pink, blond, black hair came by it naturally...
I wonder sometimes if I would get fewer comments if my hair was dyed purple or blue. Am I that strange that I want to age naturally? Am I that odd that I don't mind if my hair makes me look my actual age? Maybe I am fooling myself when I say I like my white hairs if I'm upset that someone thinks I should hide them. I don't know.