tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5945168277255989385.post6468910554444221083..comments2023-05-18T10:19:01.837-04:00Comments on Seraphinalina: Long overdue check inSeraphinalinahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12706215125457113080noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5945168277255989385.post-12143197582897185492016-04-14T20:51:57.358-04:002016-04-14T20:51:57.358-04:00It does suck, while I wasn't looking forward t...It does suck, while I wasn't looking forward to work exactly, I was hoping to broaden my resume with a different position and 10 years is a long time.<br />And yeah, definitely sweeter. We appreciate the tiniest bits of improvement because they are so hard fought.Seraphinalinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12706215125457113080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5945168277255989385.post-58074121428546117472016-04-13T14:37:47.335-04:002016-04-13T14:37:47.335-04:00Sucks about the job--one with that kind of flexibi...Sucks about the job--one with that kind of flexibility is nearly impossible to find. Glad to hear that things are getting better, even if it's not quite "perfect". Clover sounds like a tough nut to crack, but it'll be all the sweeter when she finally does. :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5945168277255989385.post-22967786351827307932016-04-13T14:04:29.436-04:002016-04-13T14:04:29.436-04:00Thanks for the prayers and thoughts. Work wise, I...Thanks for the prayers and thoughts. Work wise, I know I'll find something that fits my life better - at the very least closer to home!Seraphinalinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12706215125457113080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5945168277255989385.post-1086560386453323912016-04-13T14:03:46.690-04:002016-04-13T14:03:46.690-04:00We had a house concert last week and as it turned ...We had a house concert last week and as it turned out the musician had a 14 year old daughter, and our friend stuck around and he has 11 and 12 year old daughters. While some of the nuances of Clover's behaviour are from trauma and attachment (and my responses have to consider her past), it was so refreshing to hear I am not alone. <br />I was never going to worry about academics this year, but I have to say it's nice to know it's still coming along and I have something to brag about. :)Seraphinalinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12706215125457113080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5945168277255989385.post-49799260886865164972016-04-13T13:53:04.389-04:002016-04-13T13:53:04.389-04:00That taking care of ourselves is pretty important....That taking care of ourselves is pretty important. All summer the social workers would ask about self care, but the best I could do was 5 minutes in a bathroom. School sure helps, both of us being able to be alone with the girls for a while helps, we find time to take care of our marriage too. All very necessary to be the parents they need.Seraphinalinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12706215125457113080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5945168277255989385.post-50547505479004387992016-04-13T12:25:13.571-04:002016-04-13T12:25:13.571-04:00Uncle Jack sounds about right. It's tough eno...Uncle Jack sounds about right. It's tough enough with teens but when you add the lack of trust that the parents will stay through thick and thin... it sure isn't easier. But we sure do appreciate the little things, small improvements are huge to us.Seraphinalinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12706215125457113080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5945168277255989385.post-17409605940047755562016-04-12T17:01:11.185-04:002016-04-12T17:01:11.185-04:00It's a bummer about the job. :( Hope you be bl...It's a bummer about the job. :( Hope you be blessed with an even better job that you absolutely love! And the lawyers bring plenty of compensation from the old company. Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04990191457997877760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5945168277255989385.post-81736934014675291012016-04-12T16:59:06.252-04:002016-04-12T16:59:06.252-04:00Big hugs, Sera! I've been thinking of you and ...Big hugs, Sera! I've been thinking of you and your family. Sending prayers, thoughts of positiveness, strength and good vibes your way! Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04990191457997877760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5945168277255989385.post-75970667053652759422016-04-11T23:05:13.751-04:002016-04-11T23:05:13.751-04:00So good to read the update, even if it isn't a...So good to read the update, even if it isn't all sunshine and roses! It sounds like you are making good progress with the kids, yes even Clover. I would be pretty surprised if either of my kids opted to ride with me in such a situation, either. ;) and what a relief they're doing ok academically. (This was a huge struggle for my kids, though they're a bit better now, and definitely one you don't need on top of the other issues.)<br /><br />Good luck with everything, including the job hunt!Tanit-Isishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15824217102632813598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5945168277255989385.post-54843984106381580952016-04-11T20:05:51.552-04:002016-04-11T20:05:51.552-04:00So good to hear from you.
Wow, you sound like it...So good to hear from you. <br /><br />Wow, you sound like it's a roller coaster ride with Clover, I have no advice but I am trying to send all of you some positive energy across the country. I work in a nursing home where almost all the residents have dementia/Alzheimer's in various stages, so I really get what the psychologist says. Makes perfect sense. We have a saying "you never win an argument with someone with dementia". Probably not much different with a teenager. At least the kids will grow out of it, eventually.<br /><br />Take care of yourself and Mr Lina, as well as your new kids, and write when you can. ♥<br /><br /> ElleChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16656569539140359204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5945168277255989385.post-47080154247326693962016-04-11T17:27:04.289-04:002016-04-11T17:27:04.289-04:00Parenting is hard... parenting someone you haven&#...Parenting is hard... parenting someone you haven't been with from birth is even harder. And teenagers are experts at rejection. Even the ones who've been with the same parents all the way through are hardwired to test your commitment. My partner and I just hung on to sanity by our fingertips when my stepson was 14 and 15, and he'd had a relatively stable childhood. (There's a child psychologist here who likens teenagers to mad uncle jack. Imagine you have an old uncle who is losing his marbles. When you offer him a cup of tea and he says 'f off', or throws it at you, you understand it is his dementia and not about your cup of tea. He reckons teenagers are just like that).<br /><br />You sound like great parents. I can't imagine how hard the wait is. And I'm so sorry to hear about your job. That's rough. <br /><br />Hang in there, and enjoy the good parts!Lyndlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02074439380587418342noreply@blogger.com